As someone who practices yoga, attempts to meditate and is never too far from the national dialogue on "mindfulness", I attempt to be practice gratitude and aim to stay in the moment when I can. Spoiler alert: I'm not very good at practicing gratitude. In an attempt to give myself a better picture of what gratitude is, I'm choosing to ask, "what might the situation look like when I am being ungrateful?"
Complaining about something done to me or a situation I'm in
Being resentful of others
Focusing on resources or material possessions I lack
Fixating on my mistakes or weaknesses
The above came to mind after a friend told me he was engaged in what felt like the impossible task of not complaining for 30 days. He said to me, "the other morning I woke up and the first thing I did, within minutes of getting out of bed, was complain to my wife. Back to square one."
The moment in time where I no longer complain feels or fixate on my weaknesses feels a long way away. So distant I'm not sure I can even imagine it. Making it more difficult, for me imagining a future state or goal can be tough. But when I discovered "inversion thinking" early this year (h/t James Clear), I realized it is often quite easy to know what its like to do the opposite of what I aspire to.
Rather than aiming to get better at gratitude over the next weeks and months, it is my hope to slowly become more mindful of when I am not practicing gratitude and bring myself back.
Go Forth Boldly
“Your beliefs become your thoughts, Your thoughts become your words, Your words become your actions, Your actions become your habits, Your habits become your values, Your values become your destiny.” Mahatma Gandhi